Monday, 19 November 2012

Tears don't solve problems but darling, it's OKAY to cry!

We all know tears don't solve problems but i tell you from personal experience it is okay to cry, its okay to break down and its okay to fall apart every now and again. Its all perfectly okay. However the most important thing you must remember is to pick yourself up,dust up and get ready for round two because as long as we are living,problems are bound to waltz their way into our lives. As  you pick and dust yourself don't forget that every fall is a lesson learnt and every scar tells a story. A story that says you were wounded but you survived. You are a survivor.

I might be young but I have gone through some trying times and for me to tell you to cry when you want to means i totally understand what it feels like to bottle it all up and never letting it out. You don't have to tell the world your problems because they will never give you a solution. Cry all you want and shed all the tears you want but whatever you do - Let it go.

Don't be ashamed to cry, cry when your heart is troubled and cry whenever you have to. While some will look upon tears as a sign of weakness I can assure you that shedding tears is not a sign of weakness. You can only act strong for so long before the tears come rolling down. There is no point in acting strong when deep inside you are breaking in pieces, Cry and let it out. After a good cry I always feel better, you should try it sometimes. What do you prefer? To look like superman from the outside and inside you're like jelly? No, you don't have to be strong for anyone else but yourself. So refuse to be troubled by what people will think of your tears. Inwardly you know your hurting so cry if you must. You're only human.

“We need never be ashamed of our tears.” 
― Charles DickensGreat Expectations

Tears is from the heart and the heart is a deep place where so many emotions are stored. Emotions that are  often unspoken,emotions that we have been bottling up for so long,emotions that we don't want anyone to hear of. So when that feeling of crying overcomes you don't suppress it. Its unbelievable how relieved one feels after a good cry. Tears can relieve so much pain and stress.

We've all gone through those times, times when we feel like our world is crumbling down and there is  no one to turn to. Times when it feels like the sun refuses to shine and times when we feel so unloved and all we crave is a hug and someone to say its going to be al-right  - Financial troubles, disappointment,  sickness, a failed direct debit, a car that refuses to start in the morning,court cases, bailiffs knocking your front door down, Kids not keeping well, a failed relationship, losing a loved one,unemployment, unfulfilled dreams .....the list goes on.

We can't do it on our own. that's why we have a God above us, where we can cast all our burdens, and turn to for help in times of trouble. He can lift us up when we least expect it and HE is always the answer. He is able for with Him nothing is impossible. I know the hardest thing to do is to Praise God when you're going through tough times and the only question that comes to your mind is ''Why Me?'' but we have to believe that God gives his toughest battle to his strongest soldiers who can endure. He never gives you a burden that you cannot carry. He is able.

Remember, crying is not a sign of weakness and don't forget we cry when we're happy too. So next time you feel that overwhelming urge to cry,please don't hesitate to let it all out. Don't forget to dust and pick yourself up and more importantly don't be a fool, learn from every bad situation.

Till then..let it flow.