Wednesday, 16 September 2015

30 Things

So I hit age 30 few months ago. Errmmm…I never experredit!! Where did time flew to? It was just yesterday I was celebrating my 21st birthday and now I’m slowly creeping towards pensioner's realm.

Dirty 30

I struggled to accept it in the beginning, so much that few days leading to the birthday I tried to keep the birthday and the age on the down low but my cousins were not having it so by the time it was 6am on the 5th of July, the world knew I was 30. Great!

The World Knew I was 30!

Will I take back my years of the good, the bad and the ugly?

Naahh… I have been through too much but likewise I have learned too much to erase those memories. It has not been smooth sailing but still I wake up every day thankful to God because it could be worse.

Too much light have come out of my darkness, so with that I say roll on the next 30 years of my life. I’m not fully equipped but I’m ready! But then again, who’s ever fully equipped for life?

I have lived and I have learned. I’ve had first-hand experiences which no one taught me in school but life did. I have cried, and laughed and sometimes wished it will all go away, I have given up hope, I have prayed and I have found my strength again in GOD when I thought I had nothing left.

Aye I could go on and on but I would like to summarise my experiences in 30 Things.
 (It's way more than that but I wouldn’t like to bore you all)

So here goes...

1.     Family over everything. You bend, you bend and you bend but guess what, the ties never break.

My A team

2.     People are not against you, at least not everyone is. People are for themselves. The sooner you understand this, the better. The world owes you nothing!

3.      If you do not have God, then what do you have? I’ll tell you….nothing. 

4.      Whoever carved the phrase ‘’No New Friends’’ didn’t know the first thing about friendship and sure didn’t know what they were talking about.

No New Friends? GTFOH

5.     Treat people better than they treat you, always. And be nice. Whoever says it pays to be nice, knew exactly what they were talking about. I get away with murder by being nice. Life is hard already, stop throwing stones at people.

6.   It is possible to do all the right things and still fail. Don’t live your life looking for answers, that is quite unfulfilling but rather live within the questions.

7.      Someone’s idea of you is never your reality. It’s just that, their idea and opinion. Never allow it to get to you.

8.      You can’t control everything that happens to you in this unpredictable life but what you’re in charge of is how you react to every situation that occurs in your life. My younger brother once said to me that the only person I can control is myself. So when bad things happen that I can’t change, all I have to do is choose to change my attitude towards it. This is the way I see obstacles now and it is a damn good perspective.

Your Attitude has a Lot To Do With Everything
Fight till My Last Strength Is Exhausted!

9.      Before holding grudge, talk to the person first, sometimes they have no idea what you’re going through or that they've hurt you.

10.     You can’t save a man from himself. Now let that resonate.

11.      If making you happy is costing me my happiness then I can’t afford you.

12.       Life is not black and white –there are grey areas. Just because it haven’t happened for you yet, it doesn't mean you’re failing. It’s just not time.

13.       God do not let me forget that I need you in my best days as I did on my worse days.

14.      It is okay to cry, doesn't matter if you’re a man or woman. Never suppress an overwhelming feeling. You’re human, don’t you ever forget that.

15.     Don’t sweat the small stuff. Life is a series of ebb and flow. Most things are not as bad as we make them to be.

16.      This too shall pass. This mantra gives me hope in the darkest of time. It gives me a flashback of the many times that I have been able to pull through in life.

My Harshest Critic And Greatest Supporter
 My Mother!

17.     Be present in every moment, I cannot stress this enough. Stop looking for the big things, relish every tiny little happiness in your life. Some people exist only for the big finale but the secret is to look for the good in every situation.

18.    They will love you. They will adore you. And they can still hurt you.

19.     Love yourself, adore and cherish yourself like you would a loved one. Heck, be conceited. Be kind to you. Treat yourself, date yourself and be careful how you speak to yourself, YOU are listening

Be Conceited And Take Shameless Selfies

20.   Jeremiah 29:11 - My ultimate bible verse. I call it hope.  If I ever have another tattoo, this would be it.

21.     Writing is good but what is even better is talking. Make sure you have that one non-judgemental person with a listening ear in your life. Most times, a good catharsis is what we need.

22.     I used to wait on happiness. Then I realised that happiness doesn’t always come in grand style. Now a cup of coffee makes me happy, the company of my family, the smile on my grandmother’s face, my God-children leaving voice notes on WhatsApp make me really happy. The small things are the moments that matter. Don’t let them pass you by without noticing.

Their VoiceNotes On Whatsaap
Always Put A Smile On My Fac

23.     Being attractive has a lot less to do with how you look. But a whole lot more to do with how you treat people and handle certain situation. How you react to events and happenings in your life and how you make people feel about themselves.

24.     You never know how fucked up someone is until you try to love them.

25.        Love is a decision. Love is more than a feeling. Love is a decision you make every passing day.

26.      Life is full of unplanned events and sometimes life slaps you across the face. You will have bad days and you will have days that nothing seems to be going right. Life will turn you upside now and there’s nothing you can do about it. Hold tight. God gives his hardest battle to his toughest soldiers. Learn from it. You will be okay, eventually. Trust me on this one.

27.       Take heed to criticism. Sometimes the things that upsets us the most are things we need to change in ourselves. Criticism can be a great inner mirror. Not everyone is out to get you, sometimes people are telling you the truth. Listen.

Have Confidence But Stay Humble

28.      Have confidence in yourself but stay humble. Confidence without fear of what people may think of you. A confidence that doesn’t waver even when people don’t approve of you.

29.     Strive to be a better person. You are not always right. You are not the standard, judge less. Listen to your intuition and every now and again, stop and do some inner soul cleaning.

30.       You are magic.

With that i have to say, live with no regrets, it's a waste of time. Learn from mistakes made and remember to live life fully....regardless of all the many curve balls life throws at us.

Live Life To The Fullest

Till next time