Wednesday, 23 October 2013

The Unrequited Love

That awkward moment when Cupid refuses to do his job properly…..the heart suffers heartbreak and goes into coma!

You Learn To Live Till Your Prince Finds You!

When you love someone and that person doesn't love you back…mehhh that’s just headache! You desire them. You long for them. You wish for your love to be understood and rewarded but all you get is constant air. You all know the human mind loves a challenge, so the more we are rejected the more we pursue! OK, I just want to stop you right there. Don’t be a fool about it, read the signs and quit while you’re ahead.

We all know this feeling all too well... (If you don’t, please get in touch, you might be the one that got away!)

We all have had crushes, present or past.  We've all had that one person we dream the rest of our lives with. We've all had that dream. The terrible thing is it doesn't matter your age; your love can be rejected. It doesn't matter your financial status your love can be rejected and thrown back in your face. It’s just one of those things that hit you at any stage or phase in your life. Love doesn't choose. If we had the pleasure of choosing who we love, we wouldn't have so many broken hearts. The heart wants what the heart wants. Period!

Love on its own is a very strong emotion. Now think of your love being packaged and thrown back in your face. That’s never an easy thing to deal with. It makes you think the unthinkable and do the impossible. It can jerk up your self-esteem. Appetites go out of the window. It can disturb you emotionally and mentally for a very long time. It can send your ever so peaceful mind into an unruly riot. More dangerously, it has the tendencies of making you settle for less than you deserve.

Just Don't Stay Stupid!

As you grow you learn. As you grow you learn to accept that your kind of love is not for everyone. Your love is special. It’s unique. It’s bespoke for the right person. Never force it on someone who doesn't recognise it or who isn't ready for it. If it is meant to be, you wouldn't have to force it on no one. The heart that is meant to love you will love you fearlessly. Lighten up chief. You’ll live. You’ll learn. You’ll love again!

Broken hearts are common, more common than you think. You are not going through this alone. So many people dream of their ideal partner that has never come to past. But that does not mean we give up on love. We love love even harder and get set for the next blow or the next fairy tale. Loving gives hope. If you've given up on love then you have given up on life. Don’t, just don’t!

You love him or her and they don’t reciprocate. Don’t die brother, be strong. Sister, dry those tears and adjust your tiara. It’s not the end of the world. That is just one person. The right one might just be one dash of hope away. Why give up on love?

In life you will encounter nos and yeses in abundance. Learn to accept them and move on. The wind doesn't have to blow in your direction all the time. Don’t you think you deserve better than crawling all over someone who doesn't want you? Easier said than done? I know I know…but you have to save your own dear little heart and the worst type of relationship to be in is one where the feeling is not mutual. Please, death is not your portion….at least not yet.

Don't Be a Damn Fool ~ Quit While You're Ahead!

My thought is, if everyone that you love loves you back, my friend I’m afraid you have a situation. You don’t need that ‘’Yes Man’’ problems around you. No challenge. No room for growth. No room for improvement. No Motivation. No Drive. No Stimulation. Nothing! Is that how cheap and simple your love is? I thought not!

Now I fully support you if you decide to listen to the saddest love song ever created, or fill a whole year’s journal in just one day, or cry your eye balls out, better still finish all that chocolate that’s been in the fridge since Easter (Just remember that gym membership is not cheap) My point is, do what you have to do to get over that UNREQUITED LOVE.

Few things you must remember when dealing with An Unrequited Love

  • There’s a reason that person doesn't feel the same way…accept it (whatever it may be)
  • They don’t owe you an explanation, get over it.
  • Your kind of love is not for everyone, but it is for somebody.
  • Darling, it is OK to cry a river just don’t buy a boat and start paddling in there! (It will take you nowhere)
  • You are beautiful. You are handsome. You were fearfully made by The Man Himself (God)
  • You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back. Don’t stop loving!
  • Nothing is wrong with you (Guys buckle your belts and lace your shoes. Ladies adjust your tiara and wipe your tears. )
  • Get your esteem back up and keep it moving.
  • Find your rainbow in every cloud and keep smiling.

·         Till then


Tuesday, 15 October 2013

Not Your Average...

I love me some creative mind. Like a magnet I am drawn to them. Like a magnet I cling to them.

This young talented man caught my attention. His talent is insane. His creativity is just extraordinary for his age. I was intrigued. 

Considering my age, (I'm not taking this age thing very well...*sighs*) Victor Osman Forna and I hold long interesting conversation. It feels like I’m actually talking to someone within my age rank. You'll be wondering why I mentioned this but most people I've noticed cannot hold a good conversation even if their existence depended on it. I am talking grown folks too. That alone is a skill. This guy is just one interesting individual too and wait for it.....we have never met in person. So once more I thank technology and social media which have succeeded in making our world one small place.

Oh...he's a genius with a capital G and he’s from the motherland too, Sierra Leone. Smashed his GCSE's like a boss! What i actually meant is the least was a C!! Listen, when I took my GCSE's I had U in mathematics, which I think personally means Can’t-Be-Bothered-To-Waste-My-Time. I get it because God knows I wrote nothing on that paper. There was nothing to mark. It was only fair. So in my books anyone who can come out with an A in Mathematics is a force to reckon with. I would put his results on blast but I do not want y'all to start dribbling! 

Enough of his life...I think I've dug deep enough.

Among other things, this young man has a very assertive and creative mind. He writes poems and I absolutely love poems. I am always on the lookout for the next best thing. Especially ones that keep me inspired, motivated and make me think. I saw the poem and it spoke to my life. I love the way he thinks…

Healing process comes in different forms and for me one main path to healing is through others’ stories and testimony. When you read the poem am about to post, you will admit that it came from a deep, soulful  place and for that reason I respect and appreciate the time, thoughts, emotions and effort poured into this poem.

Writing is therapeutic, you might not know this, but you don’t have to be a writer to put pen to paper and pour your heart out. You don’t need any qualifications neither anyone’s approval. All you need is your pen and paper and your thoughts. Your thoughts don’t even have to be a collective one, just pour it out. When your heart is full, when the mind can take no more or when you can’t find a solace….put it into writing. There’s a healing awaiting and if you decide to share your story well that’s just amazing because in the process of healing your soul, you’re also helping another soul.

Here goes guys…Read, digest and enjoy!

Victor Forna ~ Not Your Average

Thoughts On A Rainy Day

Sitting by the Window… looking at the rain.
Drop after drop, thoughts fall upon my brain
Why do we suffer, why do we pain?
I just can't find the answer, no matter the much rain..
Closing my eyes, the rain I still heard.
Drop after drop, my thoughts were running mad.
They say God forgives, now that's just sad..
'Cause if he did why do mothers die?
'Cause if he did, why do babies cry?
Opening my eyes, my thoughts I still had.
Outside, the rain was pouring harder..
Inside my mind, my thoughts were getting madder..
Why do dogs die? They never ate that apple..
Oh rain! Tell me why! 'Cause they never ate that apple..
Why are we not all beggars?
Why are we not all royals?
All these questions… All no answers..
When the rain stops, I hope my thoughts will too..
But till the sun shines again,
I am sitting by the Window looking at the rain…

Praying these answerless questions get the f*** out of my brain.

It is always OK to release anger too while is OK! Just pour it all out.

Watch this space for the next ''Not Your Average'' (I like surprising people) 

He doesn't have a clue i did this. I felt it was worthy of sharing so i thought to do just that as i do with everything else i'm excited about. Stole your pic too.....sorry. *Hangs head in shame*

Till Then