Thursday, 29 March 2012

How To Have A Lovely Day!

I came across this brilliant post and I thought to share. I find every step relevant and true. My favourite is number 2.
What's your favourite one?

Stay Positive and always look on the brighter side of life and if you can't see the brighter side, a wise man once said polish the dull side.

Its all part of growing up. Take every step in your stride and remember,one day at a time. Its not always about who finishes first, it is about the journey and how much you learn from it. Now that is what I call winning.

keep Smiling my lovelies..xXx

Sunday, 25 March 2012

Weekend Quote

Life is like Party

Life is like one big party.
You invite a lot of people.
Some go and some join you.
Some laugh with you and some don't come.
But in the end after the fun,
there would be a few who would help you clean up the mess,
and most of the time,
those are the  uninvited guests.

Be watchful of who you give a space in your life. They can make or break you.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend

Monday, 19 March 2012

Settling? But Why? Is that all you are worth?

Settling..hmmm *Shakes Head*

This is becoming a growing issue in our society. The sad thing about it is when I see abled, promising young people settling for less than they deserve at the same time wasting their lives away when they deserve so much more. But why?

What I define as settling is when someone decides to forget their value and decides to compromise for less than they deserve. Do you know the damage that does to you? It eats you up gradually from the inside,mentally and physically and by the time you wake up from your slumber,My friend it's a minute too late!

Settling.... no child of mine will be settling for trash when he or she deserves the rich red meat! The only time you will catch me settling for less is when I am haggling a price and that is because I am at an advantage at the end of the day. If I feel depressed or suppressed in any situation,I am finding the nearest exit, yes the nearest one because I value my life and my happiness more than anything. I am worth it...oh yes I know this! Sometimes trying to force what is never meant to be is a recipe for disaster and ultimately self destruct.

The way settling is becoming a trend is just crazy, I say crazy because i don't see any reason for someone to be settling regardless of your situation in life which is normally the most common excuse for screw ups. An awfully large amount of people are settling but they are unaware. Times are hard I get it, but nothing is worth your freedom and rights,above all things your life! Your life is a gift to you from God,so please act like it is priceless and handle it like it is Golden. Let no man tell you otherwise,regardless of the part they play in your life.

I can think of a million and one reasons as to why people settle but that still doesn't mean it is right or that it makes any sense.There is no justifiable excuse for settling,yes I said it. Life is full of problems and setbacks and  until you learn to tackle life's problems for yourself, settling for less in someone's life ain't going to make them go away. You  might think you are living life in the safe lane by accepting whatever is thrown at you from all angle but I tell you now that you are in fact living life dangerously. Dangerously because you are clearly setting your future up for a disaster because when the comfort carpet is swept from underneath your feet,what are you going to fall back on?

People settle under different circumstances for various reasons such as money, age, power, time, fear, ignorance, cultural beliefs,  poverty and so many others, to name but a few.

Let us look at the most common situation where people settle for less. I guess you all know it has to be relationship or if you have another circumstance please let me know in the comment below, after all we are all learning and i am a willing learner. :)

I am not an expert in relationship but one thing i know for sure is i don't settle for anything less than I deserve in any kind of relationship, no matter how handsome or rich the guy is or how promising the situation looks. Nothing holds me down in a bad relationship,if the guy ain't acting right, I'm out. I see many people in a bad relationship and they claim to be in love. Love at the expense of your life? Is it worth it? You are living under the same roof with a cheating scum who you have been engaged to for 5 or more years and he still haven't come to the scene where he puts a ring on the finger and yet you take care of his 2 kids,cook,clean and wash his dirty linings. Do you think this person values your life? You are taking all this from him in the name of love but do you think he truly loves you? Think!
The constant deceit and lies is bad for your health and self esteem. At this rate, you are better off on your own. Don't go thinking you are a ride or die chick,My friend recognise the difference between being dumb fool and being loyal to your man. Don't stay in a bad relationship and convince yourself that you are doing it for the kids...even the kids won't be happy to see their mum unhappy. Love yourself and walk away!

OK so you are fast approaching your ''sell by date'' as a woman and if Mr Right don't come along soon you will happily settle for gramps! Really?!?  Let me just quickly add, there aint nothing like a sell by date. As a woman if you have been living a decent life and taking the utmost care of yourself, tell me why you wouldn't be in good shape? Settling won't make you happy so why settle at all? Sometimes we need to look in the mirror and ask ourselves questions and when you start answering them then you will see how blind you have been and how much you have undervalued your life. So you managed to bag any guy that first came along, regardless of his baggage, why? His baggage could be your one step to death! That is why I personally think every woman or man must seek God first and all other things will be added. Some battles might appear easy on the eye but we just can't win them single handedly...We need the hand of God! You will be surprised when the right person will come along at the right time when you least expected it - No fuss, no pain just a perfect fit. Don't settle!

So you want the whole she-bang at a certain age. The perfect guy/woman, Kids, Big house, Good job et al. That is all well and good till you decide to get it at all cost even if that means settling for less. Sleeping with the boss, back-biting on your colleagues, stealing, dishonesty, PHD syndrome (Pull Him Down) etc. Why oh why would you do that to yourself? Degrading yourself from all angle. Slap yourself!!
We plan our lives out even as a young kid growing up but that does not mean it is going to pan out that way. As long as you are working hard at achieving your dreams, you are in the right path even if things don't happen at your pace. Patience is a virtue,exercise it in your life instead of settling. Marriage,kids and prosperity are all given by God - Seek his face!

Cultural beliefs presents us with so many limitations in life and yet we succumb to all its rules and regulation. This can also be down as ignorance. Cultural clash and beliefs. Don't marry her because she is from that family or she is from that part of the village. Don't marry him because his family has a history of witchcraft and ill luck or because he is from a poor family so you can't get married. So you are forced to bottle your feelings and emotions till your parents see a suitor that is suitable for you. What about your choice and what you want? Is that not important? You decide to settle for whoever your parents see fit for you even though you might deserve better. This is not right!

A young, able and talented individual being treated like a black plastic bag ( ie a cheap, worthless, replaceable bin bag with little or no use) by his/her partner because they depend on them for their next meal. You lazy cow! Why would you do this to yourself when you are more than capable of providing for yourself if you put the work in? You decide to take all the crap from this person just because your livelihood depend on them. Now you are settling due to your laziness. What happened to being independent and finding your own? Go out and find a job,no matter what type of job it is. You will be respected for the mere fact that you  have a job. It is a job, it feeds you and pays the bills what do you care what anyone thinks? Get a job and stop being treated like a charity case.

Settling is really is bad, the moment you decide to settle for less that is exactly what you are going to receive. You deserve the finest things in life why go for mediocre?

Forget what you want & remember what you truly deserve!

You were designed for greatness. Wake up and smell the coffee. If it means going to Specsavers to purchase the best pair of specs money can buy to see that you deserve the best, I beg please do so.

Know The Difference!

Thursday, 8 March 2012


I woke up this morning and my Time line was flooded with videos,updates and posts about Kony.  Kony, I began to wonder? The name didn't ring the slightest of bells. I was baffled at the automatic flood that just took over both my Twitter and Facebook so i decided to have a read and watch the video to get a better insight on what Kony was all about. To my disappointment i found out he is a man not even worth knowing but because of his atrocious activities, he deserved to be all up on my time line and I don't mind.

Joseph Kony is the leader of the Lord's Resistance Army (L R A) in Uganda. This man is accused of using children for over 22 years now to satisfy his selfish desires through outrageous activities such as murder,mutilation and sexual enslavement. Kony abducts and kidnaps kids and heartlessly uses the girls as sex slaves and train the boys to become child soldiers. Due to his activities he is seen as one of the worst war criminals. In my books this guy is nothing but a rebel and a heartless menace and justice must be done. His actions are unimaginable!

Joseph Kony
The Man Who Thought The World Revolves
around him
22 years is a long time and to think that thousands of children in Uganda have been going through such torture is sad, really sad. This exposure by Jason Russell who is a Co.Founder of Invisible Children has generated some questions in my mind which i am struggling to find answers to.

  • How come Joseph Kony wasn't exposed before now? 
  • Are people scared of him and the consequences of his exposure?
  • Where are the leaders and government in Uganda and what were they doing?
  • Why do we have to wait on the western world to highlight our problems in Africa before it becomes paramount?
  • How valuable is our children of today in our eyes?
  • Where is the future for Africa? 
  • ''The children are our future'' does this phrase mean anything at all to anyone?

How Kony and gang got away with murder for years i still can't comprehend. An issue like this shouldn't be turned a blind eye to neither should it be in the dark. I don't normally involve in political stories of any kind but this story hit home. Coming from a country that has suffered in the hands of wrong leadership and war,i know the consequences are never a good one and for those reasons being, I decide to expose Kony and his deadly activities in my own little way possible. I can assure you that there are lots of other African countries suffering from similar plight but who is going to put the bell on the cat, that is the big question. I can't believe i haven't seen this in the news,not even once before now and the Ugandan government didn't bother to raise awareness,even if they cant do anything about it.

The way forward is exposure as Jason and team rightly did. If it wasn't for his brave step of exposure, I and thousand other people would still be in the dark and those poor kids' lives was diminishing as the seconds go by. Jason and team didn't have all the money in the world or all the connections but what they had was a drive. A drive to rescue these children from the wrath of Kony. They raise and awareness and look what they created,even the snail knows something is boiling up on planet earth. That is the power of exposure. They have decided to use people with influence such as celebrities,athletes and billionaires to get the message across and eventually put a STOP to Kony. This is a problem in an African country but people from all over the world,Australia,Mexico etc are doing their bits to raise awareness and doing all they can to stop Joseph Kony. Unity is strength and there is strength in number.

Below is a video of a brief but concise insight into the world of Kony and gang. (LRA)

This story created a storm in me. I was shattered, shocked and angry at the same time just to think that his could have stopped time ago if someone acted when they should have. Watching the video I heard the kids speaking with not an iota of hope in their voices. This just killed me because i know the situation must have been so bad that death was seen as a better option. How sad! Even Jason's son who is just a baby, described the situation as SAD!
I applaud Jason Russell and team for this brave step of exposure. I really do and thanks for setting a bright example for our leaders in Africa.

Africa needs to stand up. The children are the future and it is vital they are cared for and looked after in order to protect our future. If we neglect issues relating to the kids what kind of future are we building for our continent. Neglect is deadly and fatal. We must learn to address issues as they are discovered and stop turning a blind eye. I'm sure Uganda wasn't oblivious to this situation but they did nothing till Jason made his first step. Do we always have to be served on a platter OR wait for our table to be prepared for us? Do we always have to wait for the western world to highlight our problems before it can be seen as an issue? The answer is no. Its time we stand up if you ask me and the time is now!

Unity is Strength
colour is of no importance

You can join in and spread the word too in your own little way as i just did. You're not too small or too poor to create an awareness so get a move on and do your bits.


Wednesday, 7 March 2012

Mid Week Inspiration

My Lovely people, hope you all are keeping well.

Just a quick not that i haven't abandoned my baby (blog)'s just that i have some life changing happenings in my life but I will definitely keep you updated pretty soon.

Looking back at how my past 2 weeks have been filled with all sorts, it inspired me in a way that brought about this phrase.

''Life is like a tea spoon of sugar, just when you think you got it all in the cup....It spills everywhere,making it almost impossible to get it all back in the tea cup.''

For me, that sums up life. Sometimes we think we have everything covered and under control so we get comfortable and then life gives us a slap from the back of our head .....a wake up call!
Sometimes its just to say WAKE UP! Other times its just to gives us hope and remind us that all is not lost, Sometimes its just to say I hope you have LEARNT your lesson. Or it might just be to CHEER us up and remind us not to be too hard on ourselves ....with that i just want to add that every now and again we have to look in the mirror and appreciate the person we see on there. Applaud yourself,tap yourself on the shoulder and whisper to yourself ''WELL DONE''!!

This has nothing to do with arrogance or pride, this is taking care of yourself, if you don't who will or how will you look after someone else?

This little light of Mine,
i'm gonna let it shine...

With that my lovely friends i say Good Night and you have the best week ever! ( What's stopping you?)
Go on and make it happen.