15 Things Potential Hopefuls Overlook in a Job Interview

I happen to work in an environment where I see people come in their worst and their best to get the job of their lifetime. I see hopefuls cut their little thread of hope by being unprepared and I see the non-hopefuls channel their shortcomings to their advantage.

I have seen dreams shattered and hopes come alive. I have seen the victory dance and the Yes fist in the air, and I have seen that face of failure hanging on a shoulder of defeat.

You Create Your Own Luck

I have seen the unqualified get hired and the qualified got turned down. This is not luck. We create our own luck. As the ever true saying goes…

‘’If you fail to prepare then you prepare to fail’’

I can go on and on but let’s get to the list.

1. First impression goes a long way. Ladies, this goes all the way right up from your attitude and all the way down to your appearance. Smile and be polite (you have nothing to lose) smell good and look good. Clean and professional hairstyle and no clownish make-up. Ditch the prestige hats and the extra accessories you’re not going for a fashion show. The heels you can barely walk in…please no! You want to look your best and be your best because only the best tends to get employed. Believe it or not, I have seen people get hired just because they’re likeable and approachable. Don’t forget the minty fresh breathe and smile the heck out of your jawbone. 

1b. First impression: Guys, that baggy jeans and the trainers, those rings that look like they’ll knock me into 2017 and that funky attitude, ditch it. Keep it formal. Even if you’re going for a janitor’s position dress immaculately so they won’t forget you easily. And I do not mean wear that yellow Polo t-shirt. Imagine you’re going on a date, a date with success. Dress like you want to leave with the price, dress and look like success. No gangsta movement. Gangstas don’t smile? My little gangsta looking for a job, be prepared to smile like a Cheshire cat!

2. Be prepared: I cannot stress this enough. We live in an era of smart phones and people get late for interviews with the lamest excuse that they got lost. If it’s going to get you that job and if you really want the job, find the location few days before, or you can leave your house very early. There’s nothing wrong with being early. You can go to the nearest coffee shop and revise your notes to kill time.

It's NOT Magic

3. Research the company: One question you can’t escape from is the ‘’tell me what you know about our company’’ In my experience every employer wants to know that you care and want the job that much to spend 15/20 minutes on their website researching and finding out vital information about their company. Research the company’s policy and what they do and what they stand for. Research their recent downfalls and successes, their newest innovations and future plans. Imagine the kick you get when your significant other remembers the tiniest details about you. Yea that.

4. Be polite: From the janitor to the receptionist, they all count in your steps towards success. Just a little secret, sometimes your fate lies in the way you greeted and treated that cleaner and receptionist you thought was ordinary. The same respect you have bagged for your future CEO or interviewer make sure you have the same parcel for anyone you meet along the way. They all count. 

5. Be articulate: Speak like you mean it in a clear and attention-grasping tone. Be audible, concise and avoid mumbling. The essence of communication is to be understood and if I can’t understand you then you’ve defiled the purpose of it all. Do use proper and simple grammar to put your point across. It is not a vocabulary test, and people are hardly ever impressed with big words. Do not shout at your interviewer, that’s rude.  

6. Confidence: See it’s all a chain work. If you’re well prepared, you tend to ooze more confidence than the applicant who is not.  Even if you’re boxing above your weight with the job you’re applying for, be confident and do not try to bullshit your interviewer, they’ll know. No one likes to be taken for a fool. Sit uprightly and look them in the eye and keep handshakes very firm, don’t break a finger though. Be confident but not arrogant. Remember they need you as much as you need them and you’ve gotten this far so you must have done something right up to this point so keep your head up. You can do this.

Be Confident but Not Arrogant

7. Be Honest: If you’ve thrown few lies in your curriculum vitae, be sure to know those lies by heart. In my opinion, avoid the deceit because it always comes back to bite you. Most times we think employers want the qualified and the applicant with the big vocabulary but really they want the person who is willing to learn, honest and reliable and is passionate about the role. After all, they just want their money’s worth and the job done.

8. Ignorance is not Bliss: know the names of your interviewers, the name of the company (yes I have seen people who don’t have a clue as to which company they’re seeing) that is the highest sin in my books. Know what the company does, be aware of the time of your interview and know what department you’re interviewing for. Be in the know and learn how to pronounce the names of your interviewer and that of the company. Don’t chance anything.

Preparation Is Everything!

9. While you wait: Don’t make yourself a cup of coffee even if you’re offered because if it spills on your crisp shirt, you do not have a valid excuse for that recklessness. Instead, opt for tiny sips of water to calm your nerves. Revise your notes or better still read magazines and articles from the reception. They might give you few tips and insights on the company.

10. Ask questions: In life as in anything if you refuse or fail to ask questions, this will indicate that you’re either satisfied or comfortable (it’s not a good place to be during interviews) or employers will think you’re not that passionate about the role. Or maybe you’re not too interested. Ask and ask questions but do it in a polite manner. 

11. Listen: Believe it or not, part of getting the answers right is by listening. Some of us can’t wait to answer, so we listen with the intent to reply and not understand the question. Listen attentively and if by any chance you are not sure, ask for it to be kindly repeated for you. No shame in asking. 

12. Tell me about yourself:  This is one tricky question. This is the time to sell yourself and channel every damn thing you’re saying to your advantage and make it relatable to that job description. This is not the time to showcase your endless collection of Michael kors watches or explain your love for Paddington your dog. This is time to show the interviewer you’re worth their time. Tell them about your attributes and past achievements not about Nemo your fish.

13.   Your strength and weaknesses: Hold on, this is not the time to open your skeletons or start acting like you’re the best thing since slice bread. When you highlight your strengths, make sure it has everything to do with the role you’re applying for. Do not go on about your achievements on call of Duty nor your ability to twerk like you’re spineless. When you speak on your weaknesses, make sure you highlight the fact that you’ve learnt from it and you’re a better person now. Don’t drag yourself in the mud and expect your interviewer to pull you through. That’s not their job. 

14. Fidgety and nervousness: Sit still. No fidgeting, no wandering eyes. Avoid the extra hand gesticulation, seriously not needed. Keep calm because it is only when you’re calm you can deliver your best. Pace yourself and smile, do not giggle like a village idiot. If you do not know the answer, do not be afraid to say you don’t know. Remember the reason why they’re even interviewing you is because they have seen you as a potential, don’t blow it up. 

15. Negativity, unprofessionalism and etiquettes: No chewing gum, or sweets or mints. That is bad manners but I’m sure you know that already. Do not forget your please and thank yous. Manners maketh man. Don’t pick your nose or eyes or bite your lips and of course phones on silent. Avoid saying err mm and hmmms, if you need time to think a bit, have a sip of water in front of you, that’ll give you few seconds of thinking time. Do not speak ill of your last or present employers to your potential even if they treated you like were Cinderella. That is bad, very bad and unprofessional. They will dig for dirt, it is their job but do not succumb to it. Rise above it. Be a professional.

However...

These are no hard and fast rules, these are just guidelines. These are the petty things I have seen hopefuls lose their place over. Do not be that person. Always be prepared, in any situation. Dress for the occasion and be pleasant at all times, no matter how bad you’re feeling. Be a professional. 

Even if you do not get the job, getting an interview is still a level of success. You learn from it and get ready for the next one. Deep down, understand that you did all you could to the best of your ability. And that’s okay!

If you fail to get the job don’t beat yourself up too much, use that energy to fuel your next move. Do not stop because of few setbacks. Be persistent and consistent till you get what you want. Hard work pays!

Always!

If for any reason you’re not going to be offered the job, let it not be because of your unpreparedness and neglect.

Again I want you to understand and be okay with the fact that you can do all the right things and still not get the job. It wasn’t yours. It wasn’t your time. As in everything, pray and seek the face of the good Lord. He knows best. But remember God help those who help themselves. So put your back into it!

...And Never Give Up!

Till Then...


xoxo

My True Warriors and Fighters...

Living with sickle cell…

It might not be labelled cancer. It might not be diabetes but it is a disease. It is affecting people, young lives and it’s a struggle living with it.

It is Sickle Cell Anaemia.

Be Enlightened

Personally I think you haven’t met with pain till you’ve suffered from sickle cell and you lay there helplessly with not a drug in sight strong enough to cure or ease your pain.

Have you ever woken up and your biggest decision of the day is whether you want to continue living or not because your pain is so unbearable and you do not wish to prolong your sufferings anymore?

Be In The Know...

 Have you gone to bed well and healthy only to wake up few hours later with the most excruciating pain ever throbbing and gnawing at every organs in your being?

How many times have you asked God to take your life because your hope and faith ran short? You light at the end of the tunnel wouldn’t come on? Or you just feel there’s nothing left to live for? How many times?

Try and Understand

Have you laid in hospital bed for weeks, in pain, life at a standstill, crying nonstop as pain slowly gobbles you away?

Ever made plans, packed your bag, called your friends, bought your tickets and all but you couldn’t make it because you went into crisis few hours before your flight and ended up at the hospital?!

Ever woke up and even to dial an ambulance becomes an impossible task because you’re in so much pain and you can’t move, not even a finger?

Did You Know...

Jourdan Dunn's Son Riley Battles with Sickle Cell too?

Ever seen tears in your mother’s eye because she can’t ease your pain and the only thing left for her to do is to sit and blame herself tirelessly as you wail helplessly in intense aches and pain?

You go through one blood transfusion after another and the back of your hand is full of scars from countless needle drills from nurses and doctors trying to find your veins.

You have to watch the type of activities you participate in constantly, watch what you eat and you don’t dare miss a day of your penicillin and folic acid.

Did You Know?
Larenz Tate battles With Sickle Cell Too

Your life is no longer yours, well if you’re brave enough… you screw the odds and dare to have a life!

In severe pain, you crawl to the door because you live alone and you need to let the paramedics in. Do you understand that level of pain?

You walk into gathering and you have people asking you why your eyes are yellow? It gets tiring and exhausting.

You’re looked upon as an invalid and a disabled person to the point where everyone worries about you standing for a long time or not dressing warm enough in the cold or even not eating right or simple thing as not drinking enough water.

Sarah Stevens
A Soldier...a Fighter...a Survivor!

Have you tried saying the Lord’s Prayer and you totally forgot how to? A prayer you learnt since you were 7 but in time of distress and pain you can’t even remember how to say the first few lines so you ask your teary-eyed mum by your bedside to do it for you. Yea imagine that.

Does the mention of word spleen scares the shit out of you? Well to me it does.

 

It Sure Does...

Your handbag, purses and wallets looks and smells like a walking pharmacy because you don’t know when next that cruel pain will make a comeback. You never really know and there’s nothing you can do about it.

Sometimes we suffer stunted growth, big protruding stomach and constant loss of weight but you don’t understand and you will want to ask me why am I so skinny or if I’m pregnant or where does all my food goes. Stop!

You have to tell your university or work place that you have been admitted….again and again and again and most of the time no one believes you. You’re on your own. Exhausting!

Manty Marah
A Soldier. A Survivor

Some days I will chose to act like a soldier and drag myself out of bed only for you to see me and assume I am lazy or I do not have a care in the world. You look at my life and made your judgements. Walk in my shoes please and tell me how that feels.

What do you know about morphine and painkillers? We know all the names and their after and side effects. Yes a sickle cell patient lives on painkillers.

Francis Davies

A Fighter. A survivor

You look in the mirror sometimes and all you see is sickle cell stealing the melody from your life and you’re wondering when the music is going to stop. Washing away your sense of accomplishments… One raging pain at a time.

A Fighter and a Survivor!

You just have to be a soldier for yourself. One strong, hopeful soldier.

You walk into your local hospital and the doctors and nurses know you by name, even the cleaners and chefs know your specialties. Hospital is not home and no one should be that frequent there.

Some days you wake up and you’re fit for nothing. You’re not ready for the world because your breathing is not right, or your ankle hurts so bad you can’t walk, or sometimes you’re tired, just really really tired but you won’t understand.

You watch your peers drop dead, one after the other and you’re thinking, am I next?

You can’t live like everyone else, there is a limit to what you can do, the distance you can walk and the places you can go and how many kids you can have. Your existence is practically limited.

N'mama Dao
A Fighter. A Survivor

Pray it’s not the two of you with the disease in the same family because then you have to watch the other in pain and guess what You can’t do anything to help them and the worst part is you knowing the severity of the pain she’s going because you’ve been there. A mother’s tragedy.

Woe betide you fall in love with someone who has sickle cell. Then you have the heart throbbing decision of whether you chose to be in love and have no kids or break up and find someone else.

It doesn’t end there, you have to deal with people who do not have a clue what sickle cell anaemia is so they think it’s contagious. They keep away from you and treat you different.

You have employers who think Sickle cell anaemia automatically renders you unreliable therefore you become unemployable…you’re already at a disadvantage in life because of something that you didn’t chose, something you have no say in, something that was genetically imposed on you.

But most time we don’t complain, we go on steadily, fighting every pain and beating every symptoms because we know that is our life now. We learn to live with it and manage it. Most people do not understand what it takes for a sickle cell patient to go through each day.  Most people do not understand and frankly I do not blame them. Much attention is not given to sickle cell patients, neither is much sensitization given.

A Disease Known Is Half Cured

You fight for each day and each hour of your life because you never know when the next crisis (sickle cell pain) will hit you. But no one understands.

This is not a pity party. We are not crying for help. We do not want you to feel sorry for us. We are not asking for your tears. We want you to understand, we want you to be considerate. We want you to be enlightened.

Be nice. Play nice. Life is hard already, we do not need anyone to make it harder.

Personally I have the utmost respect for every sickle cell patient out there. You’re a soldier. You’re fighter. I know what it means to get up and find meaning in each passing day. Keep going and screw the odds.

Inonu Khyne-Sam
A Living Testimony. A Survivor. A Fighter

Even if we have to do this daily, we will because it is our life and we have accepted it. No cure but with the help of God, we are managing just fine.

We are going to be just fine

And when you feel the storms of life assails remember, God never gives you a load that you can’t bear.

Again I say…this is not a pity party!

With this, i'll like to say thanks and express gratitude to all the people helping us, from the doctors to the hospital chefs, from our parents to relatives, to our friends and to every passing stranger who have rendered help.

We say thank you and we do not take you for granted.

I Salute Each And Everyone Of You Warriors.

Continue The Good Fight Of Faith!

... and to the beautiful souls we've lost, May your gentle souls rest in perfect peace. 

Till then 

Xoxo

I Dare You...

I dare you to send that text first and not play the hide and seek behind the keyboard, to let yourself be vulnerable and be human. To not be afraid to translate your feelings into words and actions.

I Dare you...

I challenge you to tell me exactly how you’re feeling, good or bad, in love or out of love. I challenge you to always endeavour to let me know!

I want you to make that phone call when you want to speak to me, trash the pride and ego and tell me how bad you were aching to talk to me…how bad you want to see me.

And I want to see you be a man, in the midst of your boys, no fronting. Have the guts to show me off…even when your boys think you’re whipped. Hold my bag when my hands are full, carry my shoes when I can no longer carry myself on my heels after a long night out.

I dare you to not string me along when I no longer give you butterflies or make your heart smile.

When I’m no longer a source of inspiration and happiness, I want you to turn the lights off but first I dare you to let me know.

When i'm No Longer A Source Of  Happiness....
Please Let Me Know

Against the odds, I want you to stand up for me, when people say I’m no good for you, when the crowd wails that you’re too good for me, when the hearsay gets too much and when the noise of the market tries to overcome what we have, I want you to be a rock for me.

Be a shoulder to cry on, a solace where I can channel my inner cry baby and not be ashamed. A place where I just know everything is going to be okay…eventually.

I challenge you to never keep me around for convenience. When you feel your heart beats for me only out of pity, I implore you to blow the candle out.

I want you to be my vault, the one I can tell my darkest twisted secrets. I dare you to be my place of no judgement. Someone I can tell about my most embarrassing moments and the fall I had on the staircase when no one was watching. The time I pronounced a word wrongly in public and that time my bank card got declined with a queue of people behind me. Oh the horror!

When other temptations are flaunted at you, I dare you to say no. To display a true strength of character and integrity and maturity - to let the world know that what you already have is enough!

But when I’m no longer enough for you, when your heart is full and exhausted and can no longer go on… I dare you to let me know.

I dare you to be my goofy funny and silly best mate. Laugh with me and laugh at me. Let’s do it uncontrollably till our belly ache. Laugh at my stupid jokes and be stupid with me. Whenever I feel like taking myself too seriously, remind me how stupid I look.

Can We Make Laughing Our Tradition?

Promise me that we will never forget to laugh.

But when I step out of line, I dare you to put me back in line. When I act out of character have the balls to tell me where I went wrong, not with any resentment but in love.

When the going gets tough, and the tough gets going, pray with me and pray for me. Remind me of God’s love when I don’t feel too loved, when I feel like calling quits, remind me why I started in the first place.

I know it’s not always going to be all stars and giggles but remind me to smile when troubles try to tie a knot in my soul. When the storm comes to play, remind me and never forget to tell me that no storm can take the sunshine away.

I challenge you to have confidence in what we share, that no matter what happens in the future we will know that what we had was real and true.

If we go a day without talking, I want you to remember the good times. The days that brought so much laughter and happiness and I want you to use that memory to put a smile on your face.

Some nights, I’ll be human and fart in my sleep. Can we laugh about it in the morning?

I know there are going to be days when you’ll hate me but …..Love me, love me even when you hate me. Love me even when I am hard to love. Love me even when I am unbearable and a handful.

Love Me...Even When You Hate Me

We are going to disagree but let’s never forget to be respectful and considerate to each other. We are going to be angry with each other but promise me we will fight through it with love.

And never make me look stupid.

Let’s not forget the bad days are there to make us appreciate the good days more. Sometimes the only way up is down and we must never forget this.

Sometimes I might just need a tight hug and a warm cuddle, be my baby pooh bear and hold me tight and assure me of your love for me because no matter how independent and sure I always look, there are going to be days when I’ll need you. Be there… I dare you.

I’ll miss my steps and stumble, other days I might fall, be there to pick me up and cure my bruises. I’ll be crushed and not fit for anything on some days, I challenge you to be my ace.

 I dare you…I challenge you!

Happy Valentines Day Lovers

 For the long haul - you can count on me to be your…

to be contd.

Till next time

Xoxo

Let’s Do It For The Gram...

Hold on a sec, I am just going to push up this left boob a bit more , yes that’s it, and this right one a bit to the centre, that’s it. This is guaranteed a smooth 101 likes and maybe a few compliments on the comment box.

Bingo!

Aite aite …these chicks love muscles and a bit of beard, let me take this vest off and take a selfie real quick. Yea that’s it, and another nice angle of the packs...yup. This should send a little chaos towards my inbox.

When guys Show off!! 
I see you!

I smell chaos, I see an attention seeker, and I can sense loneliness. I hear a desperate scream for validation, I prescribe a reality check.

Grown women. Grown men. Underage kids. No one is exempted from this ‘’let’s do it for the gram syndrome’’

Our generation is breaking and so is my heart.

The thirst for likes, the hunger for compliments and the ever-growing craving for shares is taking over. But really brethren it’s not that serious.

We are humans who love a free show, discounted stuff, better still free stuff. And you’re there offering on a platter of course we’re going to go crazy. I myself have been known to love a bargain and a buffet…yea I’m shameless but can you blame me though?!

You’re all cleavage-up, in your thong, naked washboard of twelve packs on display… They will like the hell out of your pictures and make you think you’re the best thing since slice bread, they will share till the share button declines their shares, they will give you compliments that will make you feel like you can walk on water but if you can’t swim like me, don’t try it!

But that’s why you posted that naked pic though isn’t? that’s why you posted that pic of you in your sitting room in a bikini, (are you okay girl) the same reason why you posted that pic of your boobs and all the while claiming you’ve got a new hair style, yea I see you. The same reason why you strategically posed so your ass can look fuller and more enticing…all for the gram, the likes and the shares.

Anything For The Likes huh?

You claim you’re getting it in the gym but all I can see is you flexing those muscles and squinting the living daylight out of your eyes…brother can you see though? You’re there struggling to grow that beard too, can I just state that not all girls love beards because this latest obsession with beards is spiralling out of control and we need to make it stop. Beard doesn’t make you automatically attractive neither does the muscles but anything that floats your boat buddy.

101 smooth likes, couple of overly sugar-coated compliments and 50 shares... mission accomplished. But how are these contributing to your life? What purpose do they serve because whatever it is, let me just tell you that it Is going to be temporary and unless you’re a model or getting paid to some extent ( I wouldn’t want to judge your hustle you see) then you have no business posting such provocative and suggestive pictures.

Has it ever occurred to you that some of these compliments are full of lies and these likes have nothing to do with you being beautiful or handsome, it has to do with how your picture made me feel, that very moment in time? If it’s a nude pic, they will like it and if there is a love button they will love it. It’ll be very damaging for you to think that all those likes, over shares and compliments are because you’re actually handsome or beautiful.

What happens when you’re fully clothed and you post that pic of you in your church attire? You get few likes, no compliments and no shares. Are you going to drop dead? Or will you run to the stores and purchase the latest push up bra or run to the ever faithful mirror and strip to show off that twelve pack?

The do it for the gram syndrome is ruining lives!

Banksy captured my thoughts in this art!

Don’t get me wrong now, I love my shorts and all things short, so you’ll always catch me in such attires but there’s is suggestive and provocative and then there is you just doing your calm and innocent thing. Trust me, there is a difference.

You’re on the beach or on holiday, of course I would expect to see you in your bikini and shorts and sexy sundress. I would expect to see you in all your glorious and fabulous self, but when I start seeing you in your bedroom with little or nothing on, then I start questioning your sanity.

Leave something for the imagination. Did mama not teach you that?!

None of that it’s my life and I can do what I want BS….nope! It is your life no doubt but you have to take complete responsibility for your actions. Your actions affect and influence more people than you think… I can hear you saying (I’m living my life for no one) agreed but to every right there is a responsibility and your responsible for a lot more than you think.

You are a responsible for your image and reputation and whether you like it or not, that is something you have to protect. That is your brand. That is who you are. Few years down the line you’ll be glad you did.

Let This Be Your Motto For Social Media

You’re a teacher, whether you agree or not. You do not have to be on the pulpit or in the classroom, old and young will look at you and change their lives, they will make life changing decisions and all the while you don’t even have a clue. You influence people daily, good or bad that is up to you.  They might not always tell you but more people look up to you than you think. Is nudity the message you want to be sending across?

You’re responsible for you. How do you feel after all the likes and compliments you so desperately desire? How do you sleep at night? Do they keep you warm? The likes, are they sending money straight into your bank account. That feel good feeling, how long does it last for? Ask yourself honestly, is it worth it? Is that beard keeping you warm?

I am not being preachy here but you’re being very mean to yourself. You’re making yourself vulnerable and open to the crazy paedophiles and sex-crazed humans of this world. Sometimes we create our own storms and complain when we get wet. Don’t be that person.

You guys flaunt money and six packs and then complain when you attract the wrong people in your life. You’re always closing circles, deleting friends and glorifying haters (really anytime you complain about haters you’re glorifying them) but what you really should be doing is taking care of self. That’s number one, that is bae and that is home. When the house (your being) is in order, where does the wrong people seat?! No chance mate!

Where lies your self-respect, self-esteem and self-love. I mean, don’t you love yourself? Why are you so violent towards your being? Why are you so cruel and evil to yourself? Who hurt you when you were young?!

You’re out there showing your goodies to people who don’t give two rats about you. They don’t even know you and you’re throwing a party for them. Free entry, food and drink (your body). Girl you’re worth more. Boy get it together.

This Sums Everything Up!

You’re a representation of every woman and man on this earth and if you’re selling cheap (yup men can be deemed cheap too) where does that leave the rest of us? How can we even begin to give value to the market again? In order for us to win the fight, we need to fight as a team. We need to be on the same boat and send the same message across.

Love yourself enough to know that every good thing comes from within. You are not a drop in the ocean, you are the ocean! If only you knew! You have all the love in you and God has given you all the validation you need. Man is fickle and temporary.

Work on yourself. Read books, spend time alone without feeling lonely, and be happy about little things. Don’t compare yourself to no one. And remember beauty lies within. Go to the gym if it makes you feel better, run, jog, and eat healthy (or whatever the heck you want if you’re anything like me). Take 100 selfies, and admire yourself. Find your best features and accentuate them with your favourite makeup, write down one thing you love about yourself every day, it could be your personality, or the way you talk passionately about things you love.

Find a Hobby and Work Passionately at it!

Fill that void in you with the things you love. Find a hobby, do things that you love. Listen to music, watch your favourite movies 50 times over, cook and cleaning can be an awesome therapy too. Learn something new, it could be baking or playing an instrument. A new language. Or a new craft. Understand that you are whole without the likes and someone else’s validation.

After all this, you can boast of it on social media and the likes you get wouldn’t matter because you’ve already gained that inner satisfaction that no man can take that away from you. The likes and compliments are just a bonus. You start to notice that you’re not dependent on them anymore, you realise you don’t need them but a few compliments here and there wouldn’t hurt no one.

Signed & Sealed  - God Did That!

God is love and He has enough to shower you till your cup runneth over. God signed and sealed the deal with you since you were in your mother’s tummy, what else do you need?! concentrate on things that matter and create the best version of yourself.

Confession:

I used to gram for the likes and the followers till I did my 100 happy days of Happiness. This was however not out of low self-esteem, this was me following trends of having lots of followers and subconsciously joining in the charade for likes. Unnecessary competition that I don’t even need to be part of. 100 happy days challenge kind of put things into perspective for me. That really taught me something. I highly recommend it. Maybe you should try it.

Whenever you feel like joining the bandwagon, remember and Understand that social media is a monster, it’ll build you up and have you for breakfast.  

Now let that resonate!

Till then

Xoxo