“Single and building my empire” but who turned you into a builder?
What if I tell you that you can do both?
Why all the decorations?
All the trimmings and the confetti?
Why all the background noise and the tambourine?
It’s all a bit too noisy up in here …don’t you think?
So much that you’re getting lost in all the charade.
Most importantly, are you happy?
You’re sad because you’re single and I can’t possibly think of anything sadder than that kind of sad.
You’re single and you’re sad because you think no one wants you. You’re scared that you’re going to grow old alone and you fear loneliness.
You want to keep up appearances like Ali, sally and Nelly.
You want to prove that you can pull that guy too. Or you can get the girl just like the next man. Sounds exhausting.
You are sad and you’re withering away in this tedious fight to prove that you’re high in demand. If you fight so hard to prove that you’re the business, are you really the business?!
Each night you fight this fight of belonging, the fight to keep up appearance as you cry yourself to sleep.
You’re treating life like a race. It was never one to begin with, slow down!
You’re at a stage when you haven’t met that special someone and you think time is running out so you destroy your happy…one sad thought at a time.
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You have successfully embedded the thoughts in your head that the only way to your happy is through someone else.
You haven’t learnt how to appreciate your alone time so you’re sad that you’re single. You hug your pillow and wet it with tears of wanting and belonging, just because you’re single.
You’re struggling with this phase and the world need not know. So you mask it with all the trimmings and special effects and life’s most deceiving filters. The truth about those filters and trimming is that they’re like the Cinderella story, come midnight its back to reality as you lay on your bed, in the dark, feeling sorry for yourself for no reason as you cry yourself to sleep.
Each passing day leaves you bitter, unfulfilled and sad. So sad that it’s almost hard to convince the world that you’re still building that empire.
Sad is no place to be…not at any time in your life because when you’re not looking It eats you up real fast.
|Sadness eats you up real fast|
See those filters are not loyal. Those trimmings are not loyal either…so do yourself a favour and make you your first commitment.
You are your first commitment…don’t play yourself. And don’t ever forget that.
Hold on…are we still building that empire?
What empire are you building?
An empire of self-pity, sadness and tears?!
You aren’t building no empire.
Or if you were….
I am here to ask you to stop building that empire. Just stop.
What is your story? Who made you a builder? Who taught you that you have to keep busy to decorate your singleness? Who taught you that it’s wrong to be your own person?
Put down the shovel and hoe. Take a rest child. Put down your tools and embrace your singleness.
You are whole all by yourself and darling…being in a relationship doesn’t scream wholeness. Trust me on this one.
I know you aren’t building no empire. You’re trying to tell the world you’re too busy for love when deep down inwardly you crave for a love so deep.
You are desperate to find that one true love and your patience is running out. But while you wait you think it’s convenient to tell the wold that you’re building that empire.
Please abort this operation stay busy of building an empire. From what I can see, it is easier to decorate our pains than to face them.
There’s is no shame in being single. It is perfectly OK to be single. It is not a taboo to be single at any age and it is certainly not an offence to be single.
There is more to life than being in the couples club. You’re single and that’s OK. Being in a relationship doesn’t make you whole.
Our generation have skilfully managed to make being single look formidable. We’ve craftily turned singleness into a taboo… but you are in charge and whatever you believe and allow is what will happen to you.
Don’t be dragged into the trend of this generation. I say it again, being single is normal and it is okay.
You’re allowed to be single without making any excuses for your singleness.
|Learn to bask in your ALONE time|
If single is what you are now, have no shame in your state of being. There is nothing wrong with you and you are under no obligation to decorate your singledom.
You’re single. Period. Believe that it a complete statement that requires no validation. It is a complete sentence that makes perfect sense, no need for the decorative excuses and add-ons.
Don’t try too hard to fit in that you start looking like the jester. Don’t try too hard to fit in the box that you come out damaged and confused. Be your own version of you.
Who knows who you will inspire…by just being you?
Don’t miss out on all the fun trying to be a good look. The people you’re putting a show for do they really care about you? Have you checked that they are checking for you?
You might just be alone in this fight…you might just be both the audience and the entertainer.
Embrace your state of being and at the right time, you’ll meet that special someone. Be comfortable in that phase of life that you are now. There is a time for everything under the sun.
Never ever lose sight of hope because what keeps us going is not even the love you crave for so desperately or the air you breath, what keeps the engines oiled is HOPE!
Tell people bold and loud… (Only if you want to)
No add-ons. No trimmings. No decorations.
…a partner should only enhance your being.
Be whole. Stay whole
GOD IS LOVE